Illusions of Love

Relationships come and go. Love lingers and sometimes fades. But it's only after a relationship has ended that we realize the illusions of love. The fantasies that we put into our head to make the relationship work even though our hearts tell us otherwise. The ideas we persuade ourselves to believe in.

Illusions differ from person to person but there is one thing that all who share in these illusions have in common: the perception of these illusions are so real that only outsiders can see the reality. Friends, family, and other loved ones sense the truth and remind us of it, but we can be so deceived by the illusion that we believe no one, only the fantasy.

So let's face the reality. At some point, we've been in an illusion of love.

• You believed that the person you loved wanted to be with you the way you wanted to be with him/her.
• You believed the person you loved had changed and was a new person.
• You believed your man/woman was not cheating on you.
• You believed the person when he/she said, "I want to be with you" though he/she never asked to be in a relationship.
• You believed having a child would change the relationship.
• You believed changing yourself would make him/her love you more.

The list can go on, but it tells us is that illusions of love only serve us FALSE HOPE. It traps us into belittling ourselves and failing to realize our self worth. It prevents us from moving on because the illusion has made us feel safe and comfortable. Because of the false hope and deception it provides, some remain in the illusions of love for years. For the others who find reality, it hurts. It saddens you to know the truth and deepens the scars in your broken heart. But do realize a better day will come. When you find the person who is for you, he/she will fulfill all of your fantasies of how REAL love should and does exist.